Wednesday, May 25, 2011
In only two more days this school year will be over! I am so excited to finish this year off and make the long awaited move to Arizona. This year has been great and I have been so blessed with wonderful students, supportive parents, and fun people to work with.
The year started out rocky with my emotions extremely sensitive about staying in Utah. I wanted to move so badly and I wasn't sure why or even how I got stuck here. It was near impossible for me to see the "big picture" at that time. Little did I know a certain boy would come into my life, win my heart, and be my husband within the school year. Guess it's a good thing I stayed!
Some highlights of this school year:
*Working not even 10 minutes from home
*Luke and Sarah visits most mornings
*Lance coming in with his guitar
*Almost all of my students coming to my wedding
*Working with some old friends-Lynne and Joe
*Spying on Seth in his kindergarten classroom
*Wonderful office staff who were so helpful and easy to work with
*Nicest principal in the world
*Amazing students and supportive parents
Friday, May 13, 2011
With getting married only 5 weeks ago I've been very interested in how to make our marriage the best it can be. I came across this article from Yahoo and I thought it brought up some good points.
Bad Habit #1: Never ending your arguments. One of the dubious perks of being married, Friedman says, is being able to “stomp out of the room, cool yourself down, and bring up the issue again a few days or weeks later — or let it fester forever.” While having a knock-down, drag-out argument with someone you’ve just started dating isn’t exactly a good sign, you don’t want to fall into the trap of thinking, “If I ignore the problem, it’ll just go away.” That just won’t cut it when you’re dating.
Tactic to try: The challenge now, says Friedman, “is to hang in there and keep the lines of communication open.” You want to work through the issue, not allow it to linger.
Bad Habit #2: Letting yourself go. When two people are married for a long time, they stop trying to impress each other — thus fueling the market for dumpy sweatshirts, socks with sandals, and New York Yankees baseball caps. This may be fine for a lazy evening at home, but it’s a sure-fire date repellent, according to Friedman. “It’s easy to say, ‘I just want someone who likes me for who I am,’ but truthfully, the way humans operate is to feel more comfortable with and attracted to someone who cares enough about appearance to look presentable.”
Tactic to try: Simply put, make an effort. There is such a thing as dressing up, and it’s worth trying when wooing someone.
Bad Habit #3: Under-communicating your needs. Most married couples have the ability to read each other’s minds: to intuit, from an imperceptibly cocked eyebrow or a slightly fluttery tone of voice, that now may not be the best time to admit to spending junior’s college fund on a 72-inch plasma TV. Unless your date is a professional poker player, don’t expect her to interpret your tics and grimaces as a request for a nice glass of iced tea.
Tactic to try: “You need to state your needs and feelings out loud, in a responsible way,” Friedman says. “The good news is, by speaking up you can help shape how your new partner treats you.”
Bad Habit #4: Sniping instead of talking. The only time you’re allowed to treat constant bickering as a form of affection is when you’re both at least 75 and celebrating your golden wedding anniversary.
Tactic to try: Instead of criticizing your new partner, Friedman says, you should make an effort to “request what you need in a specific, caring way. For example: instead of shouting ‘You’re always late for everything,’ you can say gently, ‘This Saturday night, it would really mean a lot to me if you showed up on time or even a few minutes early.’”
Bad Habit #5: Not saying “thank you.” Common courtesy is one of the first casualties of an unsuccessful marriage — and even thriving couples can occasionally say things to each other that would make Emily Post blanch.
Tactic to try: “You should start your new relationship on a solid foundation of gratitude and appreciation, right from the beginning,” Friedman says. “Be thankful for the little things... even the fact that this person is spending the evening with you.” And while you’re at it, go ahead — say it out loud.
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
Organize every needful thing.
Never become enticed by others.
Support each other in our callings.
Love each other and only each other.
Study temple names in the scriptures.
Do little thoughtful things for one another.
Consecrate our lives and always pay tithing.
Lance is to treat me as a queen, I’m to treat him as a king.
Our garments are the only thing we physically take away from the temple.
Just yesterday I commented to Lance that Mother's Day has new meaning for me. Not only am I celebrating a wonderful new mother in law, but I am celebrating becoming a mother myself. My heart is full and I am so grateful to Alexander for providing me this blessing.
Mothering Zander feels natural and I thank the Lord for his help in this. My job is easier with Zander not being with us full time but soon enough we will have that opportunity and enjoy the whole summer with him. Lance and I can't wait until he arrives and our family becomes complete.
I received this text today from Lance. Just one example of the many tender messages I receive daily from him.
Good Morning Beautiful! I am so proud of how good you are and for all your willingness to contribute in so many ways to the relationship. I am excited to have you in my life.
Stay tuned-Wedding pics and posts to come shortly!